Managing holiday stress can feel impossible, especially when family gatherings, opinions, and expectations start piling up. For women in recovery, these moments can be even more challenging, bringing up old habits, wounds, anxieties, or feelings of overwhelm. But with a few mindful strategies, it’s possible to navigate the season with more calm and confidence.
In this blog, we’ll explore ways to manage holiday stress, from handling tricky family dynamics to keeping your routine in check. You’ll get tips for staying centered at the dinner table, setting boundaries without guilt, and finding moments of peace amid the chaos. By the end, you’ll have a toolkit to make this holiday season a little lighter and a lot more manageable.
Managing Holiday Stress Around Family: Staying Grounded at the Dinner Table
Holidays are meant to be joyful, but the pressure to “do it all” or keep everyone happy can leave anyone drained. You might find yourself stuck in the middle of debates and well-meaning advice, juggling traditions, or trying to meet everyone's expectations, while barely taking a breath for yourself. That’s where learning how to stay grounded becomes so important.
Here are some practical ways to stay grounded and centered during this busy season.
Handling Tricky Family Dynamics
- Take a few deep breaths before engaging in debates or conversations that feel heated.
- Have a few neutral conversation topics ready as a gentle redirect:
- “Has anyone tried a new recipe they’d like to share?”
- “What’s a favorite holiday memory from your childhood?”
- “Has anyone seen any good movies or TV shows lately?”
- “Has anyone picked up a new hobby recently?”
- Remind yourself that it's okay to step away for a moment if things feel overwhelming. If you need help bringing you back to the moment, use your senses to anchor yourself:
- Notice five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste.
Keeping Your Routines in Check
- Stick to the recovery practices or self-care habits that support you, even if your schedule is busy. For example:
- meditate
- journal
- write gratitude lists
- stick to regular sleep patterns
- eat balanced meals
- move your body by walking, stretching, or exercising
- catch up with a friend or loved one over the phone
- take a warm bath
- Prioritize sleep, healthy meals, and hydration. It’s easy to let these slide in the chaos.
- Schedule mini check-ins with yourself throughout the day, even five to 10 minutes of quiet reflection. This could look like:
- closing your eyes and taking five slow, deep breaths while noticing how your body feels in your shoulders, jaw and stomach.
- naming the feelings that arise while deep breathing (anxiety, excitement, fatigue).
- deciding if you need a small reset by stretching, taking a water break, or getting outside to breathe in fresh air.
Staying Centered at the Table
- Use grounding techniques, like noticing your breath or focusing on sensations while eating your food, to stay present.
- Practice gratitude for small, tangible things, like a favorite dish, a shared laugh, or a warm hug.
- Repeat a simple mantra to yourself if you start feeling pulled into tension: “I am calm. I am safe. I can handle this.”
Setting Boundaries Without Guilt
- Politely decline invitations or conversations that feel too triggering.
- “Thank you so much for inviting me! I’m going to sit this one out, but I really appreciate the offer.”
- Communicate your limits ahead of time with close family and friends.
- “I’m happy to join the family dinner, but I’ll need to leave by 8 p.m. so I can stick to my routine and stay rested.”
- Remember that saying “no” is a form of self-respect, not selfishness.
Finding Moments of Peace
- Step outside for fresh air or a quick walk with the dog to reset your energy.
- Listen to calming music or a short meditation to and from the party.
- Identify a quiet corner or room where you can pause if you need a moment to recharge.
Managing Holiday Stress Around Alcohol: Staying Safe in Recovery
Holiday parties can be especially tricky for women in recovery, with drinks flowing and social pressure in full swing. Here are some practical ways to navigate parties safely.
Plan Your Exit Strategy
- Know when you might leave and have a transportation plan ready.
- Give yourself permission to leave early if you start feeling overwhelmed.
Bring a Support System
- Attend a party with a friend who respects your recovery journey.
- Check in with your sponsor before and after the event.
Use Polite, Simple Phrases
- “I’m not drinking tonight, but I’d love to enjoy the food and company.”
- “I’m taking a break from alcohol. Thanks for understanding.”
- These are honest, respectful, and usually stop questions in their tracks.
Stay Focused on Your Self-Care
- Keep a water bottle or a non-alcoholic drink in hand. This gives your hands something to hold and reduces pressure to drink.
Set Mental Boundaries
- Decide in advance which conversations (politics, relationships) or games (drinking games, charades, etc.) you might skip to avoid high-stress, overstimulating situations.
- Remind yourself it’s okay to step away from triggering situations, even if everyone else is participating.
And remember, you’re allowed to say no to any invitation that doesn’t feel healthy for you. Protecting your peace isn’t rude, dramatic, or overthinking. It’s part of staying steady in your recovery.
Finding Peace and Joy This Holiday Season
The holidays don’t have to be a source of stress or anxiety. By managing holiday stress with intention like staying grounded, keeping routines in check, setting boundaries, and finding little moments of peace for yourself, you can create a season that feels calmer and more joyful.
Remember, it’s okay to step away, say no, or skip an activity that doesn’t serve you. Prioritizing your self-care isn’t selfish, it’s necessary, especially for women in recovery navigating the added pressures of family, social events, and alcohol-filled gatherings.
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